Why Is Life Such A B*tch?

So, after the previous post on reincarnation, I decided to share some of the initial apprehensions and doubts faced when I seriously considered the idea in the first place and also the eventual wisdom I came upon. Now, I often wondered that if we preplan our existences and choose everything from the people to the experiences then why is it that we forget it? If the soul is this spiritual entity of pure light and goodness and we are it’s manifestation in the flesh, why is it that we can’t remember who we truly are and why do we live our lives seething with negativity inspite of the inherent all knowing, soul- quality goodness?

To the first part, I came across many an explanation which if summarized would come to mean something like the quote below.

“You close your eyes to the past in order to reopen them to a new existence. You can get more expansion by forgetting” – Teal Swan

“It wouldn’t be a test if you knew the answers.” – Dolores Cannon

After the end of our present lives and before we take on the next life, we choose to work on something, be it our jealousy, anger, impatience, selfishness, greed etc. and plan on setting the stage for the next human life that will challenge those very attributes. By planning next life, I mean literally choosing the scenarios you will face, choosing your family members and other people who will test you or assist you and most importantly choosing all the problems you think will challenge you to face your drawbacks and the negative traits you chose to work on. You then move into your new skin and forget all about your goals and plans! Poof… just like that… HOWEVER, the setting remains, the challenges remain only you have to face it with no recollection of how it came to be!

You ask why? What is the point of it all if we remember the course of events and just play along? You are not learning this way, you’re just parroting! The forgetting presents opportunities to handle problems anew, to rediscover your true self and based on paths chosen, assess if you were successful in attaining you spiritual goals. If you fail, you may spend many lives battling the same wars just in different settings with different faces like a ball attached to a string revolving about the same radius. This vicious circle comes about when one has surrendered indefinitely to erroneous dogmas/ traditions/ spiritual rigidity that restricts one from seeing beyond the three- dimensional self and recognizing himself as the mind blowing spiritual being that he is.

So yes, as unbelievable as it sounds, there’s a good chance that everything that we go through was chosen by us with complete autonomy to handle them as we see fit, positively or negatively. Furthermore, your present problems may not necessarily spring from your deeds in a past life. One may still choose a challenging life of a sick man or something equivalent, to develop some other abilities previously ignored or open avenues to attain enlightenment faster. But if we consider simultaneous reincarnations, it does present the opportunity for Karmic bleed-throughs in the form of hunches, mirroring, hints, gifts etc. I wonder if that’s how Mozart composed symphonies at the age of 5!

Karma is like a police, reminding us of what we did (our past selves are doing) in a past life by mirroring it in the present life like if you were selfish then, you’d probably be amidst selfish people now. Just as our past selves probably influence us, we influence our future incarnates too. Our thoughts and most firmly believed ideas in the present life prepare the setting for the next incarnation For instance, if you indulge in blind hatred towards another person, you can be bound to that person through many life times until you overcome it, if you hate a certain religion, you may just take birth into it the next time around, if you obsess yourself with injustices happening to you and believe in evil then you will always see evil manifest. Our past selves and future selves can influence us but not control i.e., nothing negates creating our own reality. Every trait and every character we possess that impedes spiritual growth must be transformed into positive ones at some point.

No one can magically become wiser, turn the other cheek unfazed, or ignore the wrongs happening around us. But if we give back HATE for HATE, then we COMPOUND it. If you only see darkness around you, why not be the FIRST SPARK yourself? Anything that is negative always constricts our perception and halts or deteriorates progress. Love and compassion is the only way we can move forward and trust that every kind of experience is for a greater good. I know that it is easier said than done but  just imagine if every single person in this world harbored this belief, what kind of world would that be? Yup… The Awesome Kind!