Why Do We Destroy That Which We Love?

What is Life? If you really think about it, you’ll realize that life is a series of distractions. We were never really meant to toil and moil and somehow survive and our real purpose was never to succumb entirely to the human experience. You see, we are not just mortal beings crammed into a corner of space as flesh and bones. We are more and we have always been more. We just forgot our “more-ness” somewhere along the way. The purpose of life was to rediscover our “more-ness” through this journey and create ourselves anew to unite with our true selves.

But as mentioned, we’ve been living a series of distractions. From the time we are born till the time we die, we distract ourselves every moment. From learning to speak the first word to cramming every bit of information under the sun to holding on to a job so we can not only survive but drown in abundance. Funny thing is our Earth gives everything we need and more without asking anything in return. Yet, we suck her dry without respite, store for apocalypse , hide and steal from one another, fight and kill for it, deprive the powerless and ignorant or sell it for a piece of paper that validates securing stuff that we get for free in the first place! We have lost ourselves in that which does not represent us or our purpose entirely and have forgotten a whole other chunk that makes us whole.

Why do we do this to ourselves? The most simple, almost primal, reason for this is one singular thought, “THERE ISN’T ENOUGH.”
There isn’t enough Food. Water. Oil. Power. Money. Land. This thought does not stop here, it transcends further into there isn’t enough Love. Happiness. Beauty. Peace. Security. You see what we’re doing here? We have turned this THOUGHT into a BELIEF, which is now our REALITY. It has moved down generations, across nations, cultures, religions and everything we do and feel is based on this underlying belief.

How did we get off thinking like this? The human experience is driven by two and only two emotions, LOVE and FEAR. Think about it, everything else is just a variation of these two parent emotions and when it comes down to making decisions, they stem from fear more often than love. It is so because we were raised under a system that enabled a fear-based psyche. Remember ‘survival of the fittest’, ‘every man for himself’, ‘success of the cleverest’ and what not. I don’t intend to defame these sayings except express that these are states that we created out of delusion but thankfully this was not the only kind of influence that shaped our world into it’s present state. Time and time again there have been a few enlightened beings who knew the truth and have risen many a times to open our eyes and yet we forget their words, their passion and their magnificence. They tried to forge us into creating a more peaceful and cooperative environment based on truth learnt from within. Unfortunately, their efforts did not succeed in maintaining it as such.

We can and must let go off our deep- seated fears, unlearn ideas that incite them and whenever in doubt look within because that is where you will find truth. Almost all the violence and wars that take place today are because of the thought that somehow something isn’t enough. We are literally killing each other and destroying the planet over this. We need not live and feel like this anymore because “THERE IS ENOUGH.” Yes, there really is enough. The universe, our earth supplies us with enough to support everyone; all we have to do is SHARE! Same is true for love, money, peace and everything else. For one to share, he must let go off fear and let in love. Have you ever noticed how easy it is to give when you love someone? If we know and believe that there is enough for all, and give more, it would liberate us. It would change us inside out and bring us closer to our true inner identity. The act of giving releases all other attributes associated with fear like greed, insufficiency, jealousy, dissatisfaction etc.

We all have this invisible circle that we draw around ourselves within which we include those few who we love and care about. Any act we think is beneficial, we do it for them and that fulfils us, we give more and it doesn’t feel like a loss but gain because we think of ourselves as a unit, we believe we are “One”. Imagine if we all bring more and more people into this circle until we can’t see it anymore. Our world would be nothing like it is now. This is possible today and this moment if we realize this simple truth.

Love one another as you love yourselves because in reality we are not our bodies or separate entities, we are our souls and we come from the same Source. Do that which nourishes the soul and the body’s needs will automatically be fulfilled. Let’s make a conscious effort, as the New Year unfolds, to be more compassionate, more giving, more kind and needless to say, there would be a time when there are be no more wars, violence, insufficiency or fear, only LOVE.


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34 thoughts on “Why Do We Destroy That Which We Love?

  1. It is here that we make a conscious choice. If we are aware we can deliberately create into our actions and emotions. Why not? We are doing it anyway. The only difference between doing it consciously and unconsciously is that if we were conscious, the whole fear paradigm would lose its grip of scarcity and the love paradigm would manifest in infinite abundance.

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  2. Very true! Most people go through their entire lives believing there’s never enough. This is the reality the world’s created or led us to believe. Fear and greed play a huge role in this. It will only continue until we decide to wake up and make that change. There is so much more to life when we embrace it with compassion and love. 🙂

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    • Very well put! And the truth is that we all realize this, except, fear overrides any action we take. We have conditioned our psych to this state and it will take some time before more and more of us change our base emotion of fear.

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  3. I totally resonate with all your recent posts! There’s a constant battle within us between love and fear, light and dark, truth and error, good and evil, and I feel that life is really about bringing the lower and higher parts of ourselves into love and out of the depths fear of and darkness, and posts like these definitely have the power to move people into a new sense of what’s possible. Happy New Year 🙂 I feel it’s gonna be a good one!

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    • Hey Charlie! I am so glad you’re back, you’ve been missed:) I gather you had a productive time away! You are absolutely right about the constant battle beneath the skin that takes place with or without our conscious knowledge. Hopefully, more and more of us can adopt conscious thinking where it matters most! Really happy you stopped by and a Happy New Year to you and yours too! I am certain it’s gonna be a good one 🙂

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      • Thank you Swetha! It’s good to be back. I’ve been working on speaking mostly so that I can get more videos out as that has never been my strong point but I feel that I must do so. Totally! I believe that the more we speak on these essential matters the more we positively impact the field around us and afar, and as you said, help us all adopt a greater degree of conscious thinking. Thank you! I trust this year will be a positive unfoldment 🙂

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      • Glad to hear! I already find your videos very to the point and crisp with no nonsense which is what matters most. But all in all I hope you achieve what you’re looking to put out there! All the best!

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  4. Your opening line “What is Life? If you really think about it, you’ll realize that life is a series of distractions” is so true! Yet I ask is it life that is a series of distractions or is it the mind? As our Masters tell us that a mind when in a state of awareness can never be distracted.
    Thank you for a thought provoking post.
    Cheers 🙂

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    • Hey Dilip, thanks for visiting and reading! Yes, you rightly deduced, it is our mind that is distracted, wound inescapably by the ups and downs of the human experience in a way that it has forgotten that there’s more to consciousness. We do not give ourselves a chance to explore any further hence remain unaware. For those who have, as you accurately mentioned, find awareness and hence know their stand as spiritual beings 🙂 I am glad you enjoyed the post, thank you for stopping by!

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  5. It was a wonderful read Swetha:) From my experience I have found that many of us stop including other people in our circle because we get hurt by some that we included in the past… Forgiving and forgetting them isn’t as easy depending on what they did to break our trust and to be true a lot of people are not even sorry for the wrong they do to others… It gets that much difficult to trust new ones.. But you are right on, doing the things that nourish our souls is much more important! Just letting go of the past and embracing the future head on is the thing to do, for as long as you keep dwelling in past the past keeps affecting your future and present!

    Amazing writing!!

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    • Oh thanks you so much! I am glad you enjoyed it and thanks for taking time and reading:)
      You’re absolutely right on the trust part. I write these posts and believe in the words but despite that, I do find it hard to trust people. The deal is you cannot always like or be nice to everyone when they’re obviously not reciprocating back. In a situation like that I just try and either avoid such individuals or maintain a general positive environment around them!

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